Sorry, everyone, for being so out of it with responses today. I am dedicating this post to all the people who commented on the post I put up this morning. My head has really been out of it as I moped around, mulling over all the thoughtful comments that you have graciously provided. You guys are so excellent for not only listening to me whine, but offering me advice, solace and reassurance on the subject of moving, little girls and retirement. I love how each of you chose the subject you could relate to and offered something from your own experience.
I am feeling better about the little girl... I know that if fate wants me to have one, she'll arrive in her own sweet time; not under the circumstances that I imagined she would, of course, but she'll get here one way or another. :) Patience has never been my strong suit (and am I ever paying for that with my 3 impatient boys!) but I'm just going to have to, as the Dude says, "Abide."
As for the move: We are renting a pod/storage unit and I will pack that thing to the roof with as much stuff as I can!!! Just watch that man of mine try and stop me! ;-) No doubt I'll get back in two years and ask myself....now WHY did I pack up THREE can openers?? But I'll hearken back to all of you and say, "Whatever. Because I wanted to." And all the furniture will be going into the pod, too, in case you are wondering.
And as to retiring to a big old house: My husband says he wants to revisit the topic (complete with ominous overtones). I do to. To tell him he can have an out-building to himself, while I enjoy myself and all my guests in the main house. (Think The Lodge on The Pioneer Woman's site.) I think we can make something work.
Of course, this is assuming the markets and economy come back. Otherwise, we'll be moving back to the shack I grew up in. Yikes!