Friday, February 20, 2009

Energy Healing Leaves Me Mystified (But Feeling Like I Might Be Onto Something Big)

I bid on and won a two-hour Energy Healing session at a charity event that I attended recently. Contrary to my regular habit of buying gift certificates at charitable auctions and then allowing them to languish in a drawer for years until I pull them out only to find they've expired, I actually called the woman promptly and set a time to meet. I consciously decided not to google "energy healing" so I could go in to her with a clean slate and no expectations. Or I just forgot to look it up. You decide.

After a some juggling of appointments on her end, I showed up at her house Wednesday morning, not really knowing anything about her, energy healing, or much of anything except that is was freaking' cold and I couldn't believe it was snowing again.

The healer, a lovely woman whose face looked younger than her long gray hair would have a person think she was, radiated a calm and serenity that I would be hard pressed to summon at any time, under any circumstance. It was the kind of calmness that beckons you in and makes you wish you could emulate it. Or that you could duck out, go through an hour of yoga at the gym, and them come back to, so you were more on the same page.

She asked me what I was expecting from the session and I told her, "Well, I don't really know anything about energy healing, but I'm hopeful it will be help me as I have a lot of stress in my life right now. I mean, I'm not expecting it to be like a séance, or anything." She laughed, relieved, because she seemed to have the expectation that I had bid on the session more as a party trick than as a legitimate grab at a possible lifeline.
Energy healing (aura and chakra healing) is one of the most profound and fundamental alternative therapies in the field of alternative medicine and holistic health. It employs spiritual healing methods which expand the awareness of the energy healer and uses energy, color and light healing techniques to catalyze healing in the patient’s energy field (aura and chakra system)—helping the patient break free from afflictions and limitations of body, mind and spirit. It may provide enhanced quality of life for the patient, and facilitate spiritual growth. Energy healing is often a powerful spiritual path for the practitioner, as well. -per an alternative therapy site.
(fyi: Supposedly, not crying is extremely disruptive to your chi. Thankfully, since I cry at the drop of a hat, my chi is not in danger of being stopped up, but I have a feeling that choking back my fears, thoughts, and words might be wreaking havoc on my chakra.)

There were several components that were familiar: the initial therapy part, where I explain what is going on in my life that I would like to work on making better (guess what those were: the move, the kids, the marriage). I start crying, like I always do when speaking of parenting issues and how I constantly feel like I am letting my kids down by not being as involved (or interested in, even) with their every aspect of school and home life. Like a therapist, she affirms the positives and tries to lesses the hurt of the negatives with a variation of "we all do the best we can with what we've got." She then asks me about my religious background.... the tears begin to roll again as I explain that I go to church and like the community that it provides for me and the religious education and foundation that it is laying for the kids, but that I am missing a spiritual connection. A spirituality that I am feeling the lack of more and more every year. I think it is this spiritual disconnect in my life that makes me fearful of the move to England and so anxious about the many supposed "adventures" that lie ahead for me and my family.

Will an energy healing help me get this back? We set an "intention" for the session of feeling less stressed about the move and more connected to the activities of my life and a higher power.

Bear with me and listen to this.

The healing part of the session started with the healer placing a "singing bowl" on my body and ringing it. (That is what the sound was in the above audio link. Hit that link one more time now.) While the vibrations are moving from the singing bowl, we are both lengthening and deepening our breath. Just like yoga. Or meditation. In through the nose, out through the mouth. Creating some heat and making space in the chest. The sensation of the breathing with the singing bowl vibrating on my abdomen is disconcerting and makes me a little tense. But I am over it as soon as the bowl stops singing.

She asks permission to touch me, asking if there are any areas in particular that she should avoid. I don't, so she proceeds. The singing bowl is stowed away under the table I am lying on (like a massage table), snug and warm under a blanket. I close my eyes and concentrate on my breathing as she lays her hands on my feet, my knees, my abdomen, my shoulders, and my forhead, where -without touching me- I can feel the heat radiate off her hands right at the part in my hairline on my forehead. I found myself drifting in and out of sleep for much of this period. Not sure if it was sleep or some other altered state of consciousness. But I sat up feeling refreshed when she was done.

We finished the session with some meditation and a homework assignment to meditate for a few moments every day to help me remain connected and to bring a calm time into my days.

I am not sure if it "worked" but feel like this might be the way to get my spiritual mojo back. I am making another appointment to see her again before we head to Disney. I will need all the spiritual help I can get to confront this den of materialism and the many golden gods that will be on display there.

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In a brazen move, I invited myself over for coffee with a blogging and twitter acquaintance that I knew lived nearby. I like to think that my blog is similar to hers in content and intent, but don't fool myself with thoughts of a real comparison. Okay.Fine.Dammit. seems, to my newly blogging eyes, a venerable institution of the women-blogging circle I have become part of. She is successful in a way I aspire to, so I was a little intimidated, but mightily curious about what kind of advice or wisdom I could glean from this seasoned blogging writer. I already felt a connection with her because her writing captures truths that are easily turned from hers to yours when you read them. It is a gift she possesses.... go read her blog, if you don't believe me.

What I found was a thoroughly charming and intelligent woman who is making her way through life and blogging with many of the same questions, ideas, concerns, and fears that I ponder. Only she expresses them more thoughtfully and delivers them in a fashion that makes you feel like you are really in on something with her. Not a spectacle to merely be observed, which is how I am afraid I present myself some days.

It was a wonderful morning as we sat in our comfy chairs, sipping coffee, and sharing stories and laughter like better friends than it would seem we have a right to be on such short notice. And did I mention that she is even more impossibly, adorably dimpled than her fabulous blog picture indicates?

This world of blogging just gets better and better, as I have another confirmation that on-line life is really just a phone call away from real life. :)

P.S. Comments are back on! Don't be shy now that I showed you my udder. ;)

53 comments:

  1. Everyone could use some energy healing....I'm so happy to read this and hear what you experienced.

    As for Ms Maggie Dammit, ditto everything you said. Blog Goddess. The real one.

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  2. That was a great post. Is this similar to Reiki do you know? When I lived in Scotland I used to run a lot of Girls days and nights out and we used to have a lot of different type of massage and healers come along. They were wonderful and I am sure you will get a lot out of it if you keep going on with it. How great you got to meet another blogger. I think bloggers share so much of themselves that we get to know them quickly - glad it turned out really well! My sister is coming home from the UK after living there for 10 years. Her babies all have gorgeous little British accents of course. You will have a great time. It will be different but change is good sometimes - all those trips to Europe, imagine Paris for the weekend.

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  3. prefers her fantasy life7:45 AM, February 20, 2009

    I'd love some healing energy. Wish it came in a bottle.

    As for Maggie, Blogging Goddess indeed. But you have a different, but equally wonderful style. And damn it! I so wish I could join you for...well, with me it'd be drinks.

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  4. You really need to check out my "Yoga is Retarded" blog (I don't know how to put the link in). Don't be offended, yoga was just NOT for me. But I'm glad even though it is kinda unorthodox & strange, that you seem to be finding your spiritual mojo again.

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  5. Oh that sounded wonderful!I used to get massages every 2 weeks but had to stop for financial reasons. Why my good friend, Tina couldn't give me those massages for free is beyond my comprehension but she wouldn't. I really need to get back to that. Each time you go for a healing will be better and better! Enjoy them.

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  6. I want to try that. My energy needs some healing, that's for sure. And I love that you met another blogger!

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  7. Oh you are a spectacle to merely be observed. In a very good way as you know. Sounds like a very cathartic experience. Maybe that is what I need. I could not help but think , that maybe you should see if she wants to move to England and double as an O pare? You get your Chi, your Chakra kept in some magical mojaic ( I know another Tony made up word ) balance and a built in child care.

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  8. I have to admit, I'm not into anything holistic. I had an old supervisor who wanted me to do meditation with the punk ass kids in my anger management class, and I couldn't do it. It's not for me.

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  9. That's so great that you got to meet up with a fellow blogger! And, your healing therapy session sounds pretty cool....I'd like to look into that myself!

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  10. That's so great that you got to meet up with a fellow blogger! And, your healing therapy session sounds pretty cool....I'd like to look into that myself!

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  11. I'll remember the bit about crying next time I try holding it back. Sounds like an interesting experience, and I've never heard of it before.

    Glad you had such a nice coffee visit - sounds wonderful.

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  12. I just love the Tibetan singing bowls - so relaxing and meditative. I would love to have a massage with them vibrating on my body. Bliss!

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  13. Amy- I just want you to know that I am only a keyboard and if you would like a phone call away if you're feeling anxious. I so look forward to meeting you in July.

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  14. Ha! First for the second time in about as many days. I am obviously posting waaaay too late at night, :)

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  15. I can't wait for the kids to get cute accents... but I fear my own Madge-like psuedo accent coming in. Eeek! Pretentious, much?
    When I looked up energy healing for the post, I saw that it was called reiki in Japan. Now that I want to keep doing it, I will do some more research on it. Thanks!

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  16. Great post, great blog (yes, YOURS). xo :*

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  17. Hey, where'd my comment go?! Suuuuuure, yesterday we were BFF and today you've shunned me for ancient healing arts. NICE.

    No, seriously, I commented up there. I said something about how what you said was seriously one of the nicest things anyone has ever said about me. And I said something about what a grand time I had, and how I can't wait to do it again.

    Oh, and that I've totally had Reiki and it was impressive and awesome.

    Just like you. :)

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  18. I did the energy healing thing. I went when I hit thirty and was still single. I had read something about blocked heart chakras somewhere...? Anyhoo, found it to be very relaxing and I met hubby soon after. So, fingers crossed for you! Love your blog. Off to take a peek at your friend's.

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  19. Drinks next time around. And I wish you could be there, too! I can't even imagine how much trouble we could get into. ;-) And thank you for the compliment- I'm blushing over here!

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  20. I'm trying to get it back. It's kind of a strange thing to have realized that I've lost.... I think this along with *YOGA* and some time in nature (that is not covered in a giant ice sheet) might be my road back to harmonious living. O:-)

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  21. Massages are so luxurious. How wonderful that you got them every two weeks- lucky!

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  22. Ack. She has her own two to deal with--- teenagers and she still radiated that calm!! It must just drive the kids crazy when they are trying to get her goat. ;-) I like your thinking though and we'll have to put out an advert for a Homeopathic Mary Poppins when we get there. lol.

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  23. Meditation is supposed to be extremely helpful for ADD/ADHD kids.... It is certainly not for everybody, but it is nice to just stop the wheels from turning for awhile. :) At least for me, it is.

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  24. Meeting fellow bloggers, so far, has been stupendous!! Madison must be some kind of blog producing holy city because the two that I have met are brilliant.

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  25. If you get a chance to meet another blogger- jump at it! I am convinced that there is a certain common strand that united us all. Not sure if is something as simple as a personality trait or something deeper, but so far I feel pretty blessed.

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  26. Okay I finally was able to get back online and see your blog, you crack me up! good luck on healing! ;)

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  27. I really enjoyed the sound of the singing bowl! It was like a gong or tuning fork... I can't believe I forgot that she also used tuning forks at the end of the "touching" part of the session. Anyway, the singing bowl was amazing how long it vibrated! It gave me a huge sense of anticipation about when it would stop.

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  28. Oooh, sounds intriguing. I have never done anything like this before, but I would love to try! Sounds nice. And yes, necessary before a trip to Disney. :)

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  29. I heard you tweet about this yesterday and was curious how it went. I've been interested in Reiki healing for some time. I would probably have been my stressed out self not knowing what to expect, but you seem to have survived it like a champ :-D

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  30. This person told me that holding in crying does all kinds of damage to your energy/chakra/chi-- I can't remember which. I wish I didn't cry quite so much, though... it is almost ridiculous some days. *~*

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  31. I can't wait, too. I may have irrationally high expectations for BlogHer, but I will continue to entertain the idea that it is going to be a huge party for us until I am proved otherwise. :* And thank you for voicing your support.... I've got your email and I'm NOT afraid to use it!

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  32. Alright, alright.... this love fest has to stop! :-[ Let's all agree that we adore each other and wish that everyone else could've been there, too. :) :* :-D

    I am up for impressive and awesome things every single day. Even the ones where I am happy just lying on the couch and doing nothing. :)

    Alright... I'm all emoticon'd out.

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  33. Now THAT is interesting. Do you think it was coincidence or connected?? Everyone will know via the blog how mine turns out, I guess. :)

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  34. Thank goodness, another person who dreads Disney! I was afraid I was the only rotten, miserable mom in the world that would happily deny their children this experience. My resolve really stinks, tho. sigh.

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  35. There was absolutely nothing stressful about the entire thing. :)

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  36. Dunno. I think I was in the place where I was ready to grow roots. Hence, all the spiritual hubbub. But, let me tell ya, if I ever am in a bad spot again...Reiki lady here I come.

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  37. the mama bird diaries9:03 PM, February 20, 2009

    The energy healer sounds very cool. I'm always interested in stuff like this. You know, something to calm my shit down.

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  38. Oh I'm not shy even after you stripped for us all. :)

    I think you're crazy. :)

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  39. On a nicer note...I didn't realize that people actually want to be "successful at blogging." :) But maybe that's because I consider myself not as a blogger, but a writer. I think there is a difference in that bloggers have a different goal (bringing people into their personal lives and ideals) whilst writers simply need a channel of literary expression. :)

    For the record, I think that you are a great blogger. You certainly have drawn me in. :) And I'm not too nice, so that doesn't happen so often. :)

    -C

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  40. I get snowed under for a week, and I come back to this scary contraption. I hope I get this thing right.

    So glad to hear that the session was successful. Sounds like Heaven. I used to practice yoga a lot before the kiddos. Not so much these days. I think I need to find the time.

    Oh look, emoticons!! Party favors! :-D

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  41. Hey! That wasn't supposed to be anonymous up there! That was me! Charity! Hmph!

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  42. I am relaxed just hearing that.

    Or is my xanax kicking in?

    As for big moves, we have a few under our belt. If I can be any help, please let me know!! I am excited you will be in Chicago this summer as well!

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  43. I love your style {and maggies,too} TONS !! and the experience you had with the enery healer sounded fabulous and yes, you'll need all the help you can get before disney ! I see an acupuncturist for many things and LOVE her and the fact that my "ying yang" always gets back on track while in her hands and care !
    I'm in madison....I'm assuming near you... and would love to go coffee with you and maggie if you get together again...she kind of knows who I am as we have a weekend cottage in the woods not too far from her home and we connected a little last year about our proximity to each other.....anyway, love your writing and humor !!

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  44. duh....I forgot to sign in to my post above

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  45. I was interested to see what you thought of this type of treatment ... always wondered myself if this type of thing worked or not. Seems that it was a good release for you. : ) :* :*

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  46. I love your honesty, your writing and every darn thing about you! Wish I could share a hug and a cup of tea (or something a little stronger) with you.

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  47. Whoa.... very cool! :)

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  48. I loved the tone of that singing bowl. I have a Tibetan bell with a dorja but when I ring it, it's sounds like I'm calling the field hands to dinner. Not very soothing.

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  49. Energy healing sounds like something that I would like to read more about. Thanks for sharing.

    Hugs and Mocha,
    Stesha

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  50. Three Bay B Chicks6:38 AM, February 22, 2009

    Adored the story of how you "crossed over" and met up with a blogger in real life. The fact that you were able to transcend the computer screen and forge a bond with someone else, outside of sometimes forced and short comment banter, gives me hope that I might be able to do the same someday.

    Thank you!

    -Wenda

    PS: Saw the link that you left on our blog re your 25 things list. On my way to check it out now.

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  51. oh i am so glad you had a beautiful and positive experience!! i work with the chakras and the healing bowls as well...and sometimes people out there that do this seem really flaky..but it is a profound experience even if you do not realize it at first...but learn to start paying attention to the energy of everything around you and you will get a better sense of how you have opened up. please try to go regularly if you can.

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  52. I had the privilege to indulge in only one healing method, what would it be? Unequivocally, it would be the practice of meditation...the road map to the wakeful rest. That is what it would be.

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